Why cougars are hunted by so many men.
A man who’s had experience dating and having sex with older women is likely to remember it as some of the best sex of his life.
Not only that, but younger men and their future partners continue to benefit from these encounters later, when the guys in form healthy, long-term relationships with women closer to their own age.
On the other hand, some men find what they initially thought was a fleeting attraction to “cougars” ends up becoming their “type.”
After all, once you’ve learned how to have great sex from a cougar, you’ll be hard pressed to find a better tutor, mate or lover.
Here are ten reasons so many younger men say sex with older women is so hot — all of which are excellent sex tips to try out in your own bedroom.
1. It’s a numbers game
The cougar age alone means many more years of experience with multiple partners.
Before marriage, they may have had a few partners. After divorce, the notches on their bedposts may have gone up exponentially.
2. They have had lots of practice
Cougars have been in long term relationships and marriages, which have provided years of sexual experience with one partner.
Those memories are implanted into the older woman’s brain and, whether good or bad, have shaped her sexual expertise.
3. They know what they want
Their self-awareness comes from years of experience and communicating with sexual partners.
They’ve tried following expert sex tips and advice about different positions, techniques, and fetishes. They’ve self-pleasured themselves for many years, and aren’t afraid of communicating the stuff that really gets them purring.
If the girl doesn’t know what she wants, it’s hard for the man to figure it out. Cougars know exactly what they want and which buttons the guy needs to press.
4. They’ve learned what men want
And they are eager to find out the specific desires of their current boyfriend. They’ve been taught by a variety of partners which positions and techniques turn men on.
They ask questions and figure out what makes their man roar like the king of a lion’s den. What they don’t know, they will research in books, movies or on the Internet.
5. They enjoy sex as much as their male partner
They don’t have any delusions that they are going to hook this man into marriage and/or start a family. This takes the pressure off a man who just wants to have fun without obligations.
This stress relief is a major reason sex is great with an older woman who isn’t as needy or demanding.
6. They realize the importance of sex in a relationship
She may have been in a marriage where sex was withheld. She won’t use sex as a bargaining chip or try to get something materialistic from the younger man.
Cougars know the psychological and physical benefits of regular sex.
7. It’s flattering to the younger man that a hot older woman finds him desirable
It’s a challenge to be with an attractive, sexy older lady who is physically fit and keeps herself well groomed.
She has the time to take care of herself since her children are older and less dependent.
8. They enjoy teaching their eager younger students
They know when to be dominant and submissive. The man senses this knowledge and power, which is very stimulating.
The older woman will buy books, lingerie, sex toys, candles and wine to set the mood.
9. They have confidence in their bodies and sexual prowess
This is a huge turn-on for men who may have been with young girls who are just learning the ropes. The younger girls may be self-conscious and uncomfortable talking dirty in bed.
Older women are spontaneous and comfortable being naked.
10. They aren’t afraid to communicate
The younger man will know exactly where he stands with her. She won’t play mind games with her younger man by not answering her phone.
She will approach a man in a bar and not wait for him to make the first move. She will indicate what she wants from the relationship. She will openly share her sexual needs and desires.
She isn’t worried about losing the man if she expresses herself.
KarenLee Poter, MSW, is the host of the KarenLee Poter Show on Dating, Love, Sex and Everything In Between, as well the author of A Cougar’s Guide To Getting Your A$$ Back Out There.