You\u2019ve\nbeen hurt by relationships in the past, and this makes it hard to trust\nyourself. But you really like this guy. You can feel it in your gut.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Is\nhe the one? Or, just another guy that will hurt you?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
When you’ve been hurt in the past, you tend to ask yourself, “Does he love me?” when you’re dating someone new. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
And while this uncertainty can feel unnerving, it\u2019s actually a good thing to question the relationship to learn how to know if he’s the one. This means you’re taking the relationship seriously.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Just\ntry not to overthink it. That never ends well.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The\nfirst thing you need to do when you are dating someone is to ask yourself,\n“What am I looking for in a relationship?” \u2014 meaning, do you want a\nlong-term relationship with a committed partner?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
This\nis one of the biggest decisions you will make in your life. Do you want to stay\nwith this guy? Is he the one you want to commit to? Are you ready to get\nmarried to him?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If\nyou are in it for the long term, then you want to know if he feels the same.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
So,\ndoes he love you? Here are 11 signs he’s your soulmate and “the one”\nyou’re meant to be with:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n 1.\nHe\u2019s seen you at your worst and hasn’t left.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n He\nstuck with you when you got fired from your job, and your roommate suddenly\nmoved out. You really had a break down at that time. But, that didn’t scare him\naway. He was there for you. He listened to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n You\ncould cry in front of him and not worry about being judged. Now, you\u2019ve found a\ngood job and have a great roommate. What a good feeling.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 2.\nHe doesn’t feel intimidated by your career.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n He\nknows that your career is important to you, and he supports it. He knows the\ndirection you\u2019d like to go in your career.<\/p>\n\n\n\n He\ntakes a genuine interest in your career, by asking you questions about it. If\nsomething important is coming up, then he knows about it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 3.\nYou have the same spiritual beliefs.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Now,\nI know this is a tricky one these days. We have all seen the Bible be used to\nmanipulate and control. This is not what it is meant for.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Let\u2019s\ntake a look at what some of the core teachings are of the Bible \u2014 forgiveness,\nhumility, honesty, openness, respect, and sacrificial giving. These are beliefs\nyou need in a relationship when you are in it for the long haul. It\u2019s true,\ncouples that pray together stay together.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 4.\nHe plans the perfect date for your based on your likes and dislikes.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n This\nmeans he is paying attention and listening to you. He takes you seriously. Even\nif it\u2019s something he\u2019s not that crazy about, he will still do it because he\nknows that you like it. He did all the planning. It could even be a surprise.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 5.\nHe smiles when you are around.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n You\nknow by his body language and his tone, without a doubt, that he is into you.\nThis is an important one. You want your partner to be excited when he see\u2019s you\nat the end of the day. You want to be his favorite part of the day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Without\nhim saying a word, you know what an amazing feeling it is when you know your\npartner loves you. This will definitely help get you through the difficult\ntimes like when the plumbing suddenly breaks down and you are left with a huge\nbill.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 6.\nHe brags about you to his family and friends.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n When\nhe knows you are the one, he is excited to introduce you to family and friends.\nHe can\u2019t stop talking about you. He has good things to say about you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n And,\nyou know this and you love it. He\u2019s not just bragging about you, he is letting\nthem know how important you are to him.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 7.\nHe hasn’t shown any signs that he is a jealous person.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n He\nis confident and doesn’t judge you based on his past relationships. He doesn’t\nquestion you when you tell him you were out with some friends or had to work\nlate.<\/p>\n\n\n\n There\nis genuine trust in the relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 8.\nHe doesn’t try to change you.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n There\nis nothing worse than feeling like your partner is trying to change you. He\nknows you love cats, and that is alright. He knows this because you grew up\nwith cats, and it has meaning to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n So,\nhe will make sure there is always a cat in your life. He knows you inside and\nout, and he accepts you inside and out. This is a great feeling. This lets you\nknow he has your back. This is really what you want in a relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 9.\nHis actions speak louder than his words.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n It\u2019s\ntrue, words need to be backed by action. If they aren’t, then it\u2019s not sincere.\nWhen he apologizes, he doesn’t do the same thing again. You know he loves you\nbecause he says it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n But,\nyou also know it because he shows it. He remembers your anniversary. Not just\nwhen you officially started dating, but when you first met at your friend’s\nparty. He\u2019s willing to accept your brother\u2019s quirks because he knows this means\nhe gets to be with you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n He\u2019s\nwilling to help you out with your car insurance payment and not throw it in\nyour face. He\u2019s doesn’t play Even Steven. He\u2019s not just making one deposit in\nthe bank, he is making many deposits over and over. And, he doesn’t need to be\nprompted over and over.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 10.\nYou know you are his priority.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n If\nyou ask him to go to an event that is important to you. He will, even if it\nmeans he has to take time off from work to go. If he travels for work, he\nchecks in with you as soon as he lands and continues to text\/call you. He lets\nyou know how the trip is going.<\/p>\n\n\n\n He\ntalks about the details of his day so you know the important things that are\nhappening at work for him. He will tell his mom he needs to call her back when\nyou are in the middle of an important conversation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 11.\nYou still have some time for yourself.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n When\nstarting a relationship, it\u2019s easy to put yourself last. This can get old after\na while. Your partner will begin to expect this from you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Don\u2019t\nbe afraid to set boundaries. If you need some downtime, then let him know. You\ncan take a bubble bath or go out with some friends \u2014 whatever you need to\nrevive.<\/p>\n\n\n\n