You\nmight be surprised to find that you want the same things!<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Do\nyou know what women want in a man?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Most men see women as completely different from them and, therefore, almost impossible to understand, much less please. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
It’s this great divide in understanding that keeps many men from having the relationship they really want with their woman (and that their woman really wants with them) \u2014 a great one!<\/p>\n\n\n\n
To\nlearn how to be a good boyfriend or husband and help your relationship thrive,\nyou first need to know what women want from the men they love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Here\nare the 5 things women secretly want in relationships from a good boyfriend or\nhusband, but would never tell you.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n 1.\nA man she is proud of and respects<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n You\nbeing comfortable and confident in your own skin and in any situation is\nimportant to her. She will be showing you off to her family and friends and you\ndefinitely want that to go well. (Note: Being confident and being cocky are two\nvery different things.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n You\nmust have ambition. Not necessarily ambition to rule the world, but an ambition\nto do something important because that shows commitment, discipline, a strong\nwork ethic, and an ability to dream.<\/p>\n\n\n\n She\nwill always be proud of a man who is well-groomed. That doesn’t mean you’ve got\nto look like you just walked out of GQ<\/em>, but it does mean you take\ncare of your hygiene, wear clean clothes and take care of your health.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Being\na strong man who is also compassionate and kind always commands respect. Strong\nisn’t necessarily measured by muscles, it’s also measured by character,\nintelligence, and integrity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Finally,\nshe will respect a man whose family and friends love and respect him. If his\nfriends and family don’t admire him, why should she?<\/p>\n\n\n\n 2.\nA man who respects her<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Your\nwoman wants your respect. You can show her this by doing polite things like\nsaying “thank you” and apologizing immediately on your own when\nyou’re wrong.<\/p>\n\n\n\n She\nwill also know you respect her by your honesty (but not brutal honesty \u2014\nremember kindness and compassion), your loyalty and treating her as your equal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Finally,\nshe’ll know you respect her when you accept her being her \u2014 even when it’s not\nall pretty or nice \u2014 without trying to fix her (unless, of course, she asks you\nto). Sometimes, this means giving her time and space to take care of herself.\nAnd sometimes, this means she will need you to forgive her immediately.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 3.\nA man she feels connected to<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n For\nmost women, this connection is emotional. She needs you to tell her explicitly\nthat you feel connected to her, so it’s important that you be emotionally\navailable and vulnerable with her by sharing your fears and concerns. (Don’t\nworry, you’ll still be her Superman even if you have a concern or two every\nonce in a while.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n You\ncan also foster the connection by being fully present with her when you’re\ntalking with her (or when she’s talking with you). So, put down the phone, step\naway from the keyboard, listen to what she has to say and engage with her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Another\nway to build a connection with her is to purposely grow together by working\ntoward common goals or dreams. She’ll love it when you support her, challenge\nand motivate her to go for what she wants out of her life too.<\/p>\n\n\n\n She’ll\nfeel close to you when she feels consistency and security in the relationship\nand when she knows you’ve got her back because you’ve got compatible values.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 4.\nA man she could fall in love with again and again<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n How\nto this for her? Never stop dating her, so you keep the romance alive. Make it\nyour goal to get her to smile and feel loved at least once a day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Spark\nher sensuality and sexuality. Go at her pace (at least sometimes) and not\nimmediately for the home run each time you get to bat. Let her know she’s the\nperfect woman for you. Praise her beauty \u2014 what shows on the outside, as well\nas what’s on the inside.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Be\ninteresting and engaging. Make her curious about you, what you’re thinking and\nwhat you’re doing. And keep things new and exciting \u2014 ruts are not your friend\nhere.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 5.\nA man who is a man<\/em>, not a man-child<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n This\nprobably goes without saying, but she is not your mother \u2014 she’s your woman.\nSo, by all means, take full responsibility for your emotions without blaming\nher. And hold up your end of making your lives work. Take the initiative and do\nwhat needs doing without being asked or expecting praise.<\/p>\n\n\n\n You\nknow, when you take a good look at this list, it is pretty much what most men\nwant from the woman in their life, too. Maybe the divide in understanding what each\nother wants in a relationship isn’t quite as great as we think at first.<\/p>\n\n\n\n After all, we’re all humans who basically want the same thing from a partner: someone you’re proud of, someone who respects you, someone you feel connected to, someone you could fall in love with again and again and someone who is an adult (but can still have fun).<\/p>\n\n\n\n Dr. Karen Finn is a divorce coach and advisor helping people who are considering divorce make a smart decision about staying or leaving their marriage. You can join her anonymous newsletter group<\/a> for free advice or email her at for a free consultation<\/a> if you’re tired of letting worries about divorce ruin your love life.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" You might be surprised to find that you want the same things! Do you know what women want in a man? Most men see women as completely different from them and, therefore, almost impossible to understand, much less please. 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