{"id":17942,"date":"2020-09-01T10:49:39","date_gmt":"2020-09-01T07:49:39","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ugmirror.com\/?p=17942"},"modified":"2020-09-01T10:49:47","modified_gmt":"2020-09-01T07:49:47","slug":"how-to-slide-into-someones-dms-get-them-to-notice-you-in-a-good-way","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ugmirror.com\/index.php\/2020\/09\/01\/how-to-slide-into-someones-dms-get-them-to-notice-you-in-a-good-way\/","title":{"rendered":"How To Slide Into Someone’s DMs & Get Them To Notice You In A Good Way"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

This involves some common sense.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You probably already know that DMs stand for “direct messages,” so when you “slide into DMs”, you want the other person to notice you and correspond with you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In my psychotherapy practice, young adults between the ages of 16 and 26 with a range of problems meet with me to talk about their relationships.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Many of them use\u00a0online methods to connect with a potential partner\u00a0and want to know how to slide into DMs and get noticed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In modern dating, everyone wants to know how to slide into someone’s DMs and get noticed.<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Romantic relationships \u2014 hookups, friends with benefits, dating, and even polyamory \u2014 are a big part of our conversation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After all, being in a relationship is an important part of healthy development, and of life. Nonetheless, relationships can be challenging to navigate. That is a universal truth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dating and getting into a relationship can be difficult for everyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

One of the most common methods these days to meet people is through dating apps and other forms of social media.<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Meeting people online is no longer necessarily regarded as creepy or as something that only losers do. It still requires caution, though, and common sense must prevail.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Whether meeting people in person or online, the basics of what, when, and how still apply. You have to consider what to say, how to say it, and if and when take it up a notch.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

One of the advantages of going the DM route is that it shifts the back-and-forth over social media to a place that is just between you two. Unless, of course, you share the conversation with your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Do not DM something you would be embarrassed by if it became more public.<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Nudes, for example, are not advised. Drunk DMs are usually a bad idea, too.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even though a private conversation may be easy to establish, it’s still very tricky.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Be sincere, non-generic, and genuine with a timely approach to direct messaging.<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

The timing matters \u2014 you want to get someone\u2019s attention but in a sincere, positive way. In spite of your efforts, the person may be offended or otherwise turned off by your attempts to be charming.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It’s easy and so basic to DM about the other person\u2019s appearance. And if you’re generic in your DMs, you will not be noticed or stand out in any positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you want to stand out, don’t approach DM-ing by using this common default mode.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you don’t want to appear desperate, focus on aspects of their posts that are not about their appearance. Show genuine interest in who the person is, rather than what the person looks like.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Do a little non-stalking research by briefly scrolling through their feed. DM them about something they posted that you are curious about or also find interesting.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If they post about a hobby, for example, comment on something related to the hobby. It’s a much more natural and sincere way to slide into someone\u2019s DMs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Looking at their feed to see what they’re into and where they’ve been recently is OK.<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

If they posted a picture from a football game, ask about it, especially if you have the same favorite team. Or even if the teams are rivals!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Having something to ask them about that is meaningful, based on what you can discern from their feed, means you are more likely to generate interest than rejection.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Be wary of bad etiquette when sliding into someone’s DMS.<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

It goes without saying, but I will say it anyway: Beware of jokes, sarcasm, and “humor.” It can be hard to capture tone in text! Offending the person will get you noticed in a bad way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I asked three people in their early 20s what the cheesiest DMs are they ever received.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Some examples include:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n