{"id":11409,"date":"2019-09-23T16:13:07","date_gmt":"2019-09-23T13:13:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ugmirror.com\/?p=11409"},"modified":"2019-09-23T16:13:11","modified_gmt":"2019-09-23T13:13:11","slug":"4-ways-to-stop-arguments-from-ruining-your-relationship","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ugmirror.com\/index.php\/2019\/09\/23\/4-ways-to-stop-arguments-from-ruining-your-relationship\/","title":{"rendered":"4 Ways To Stop Arguments From Ruining Your Relationship"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Have\nyou ever had a conversation with your partner suddenly derail like an\nunexpected storm?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You\nknow that saying, \u201cIt\u2019s not what <\/em>you say, it\u2019s how<\/em> you\nsay it?” That is only partly accurate. It matters greatly what <\/em>you\nsay as well.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Unfortunately,\nmany people are not taught how to have effective communication in your\nrelationships and are not educated and informed as to why it is so difficult in\nthe first place.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This\nresults in well-meaning couples spending years in conversational bad habits\nthat create disconnection and pain. There is a better way and it begins with\nunderstanding the primary force in hurtful communication: Reactivity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In\nyour brain is a structure called the amygdala. Its primary function is to\nassess safety, the flight or fight response.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your\namygdala can be activated by numerous things including childhood wounding, past\nrelationships, the tone of what is being said, and the words spoken.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

An\nactivated amygdala is doing its job, alerting you that your safety is\npotentially threatened. However, it may often perceive danger.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When\nthis happens in relationships \u2014 when your reactivity is not managed \u2014 you\nbecome fearful and defensive in order to protect yourself. This results in\ndisconnection and feeling unheard.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In\norder to potentially increase the likelihood of your communication being\nreceived, you need to practice some steps to help calm your reactivity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here\nare 4 easy effective communication skills that can make sure fear and\nreactivity stop controlling you and your spouse during arguments:<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

1.\n“Sandwich” your complaints with something positive.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

When\nyou want to express feedback to your partner, start with something positive\nfirst. Too often a complaint is delivered in a way that has a reactive person\nfeeling like they “never” do anything right.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Start\nwith a positive, add your concern\/request, and end with another positive. This\nstrategy does not diminish your concern, nor is it \u201csugar-coating.”<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It’s\nmuch easier to hear what feels like criticism when you are able to receive\npositivity as well.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2.\nUnderstand that your perception and the actual situation may be different<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

How\nyou express yourself creates energy. The energy of your opinion often conveys\ncriticism and certainty, rather than remembering that two people often don\u2019t\nsee things the same way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your\nexperience of something is subjective, and it’s an invitation to your partner\nto understand your perspective.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Try\nsaying, “You seem angry,\u201d rather than assuming that your perception of\nanger is correct and saying, \u201cWhy are you angry?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also,\ntry and frame the situation without expressing aggression by using “I”\nstatements instead of “you” statements.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So\nyou could say, \u201cWhen that happened, I felt…\u201d instead of, \u201cYou made me\nfeel…\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3.\nChoose a time to talk that’s good for both<\/em> of you.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Is\nthis a good time to talk? You typically don’t pick a partner who is exactly\nlike you, and that includes readiness to talk about conflict.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even\nwith positive topics, it’s important to ask if it is a good time to talk. This\nrequest is designed for creating a presence to be heard, and preparedness to be\nable to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Do\nnot talk if you are in a reactive state; nothing positive will occur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4.\nMirror\/repeat back what you heard.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

When\nyou repeat back what you heard, by beginning with, \u201cWhat I heard you say is\u2026\u201d\nthe process allows the speaker to be heard, and it calms the listener’s reactivity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In\naddition, when you mirror what is said by the speaker, it helps decrease\npersonalizing what they’re saying. Mirroring is a powerful tool to manage\nreactivity and promote connection.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Remember\nthat reactivity is not the problem: It’s your brain doing its job. Not managing\nreactivity more effectively is the problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The\ngoal of relationship coaching is not to never<\/em> be upset. As\ngreat as that sounds, that is impossible. The goal is to derail less often,\nless painfully, and raise your awareness about what triggers you so you can get\nback on track and weather the communication storm more effectively.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These\ntools will enhance your relationship and create more safety for healthier\ncommunication between you and your spouse.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Susie\nKamen, LMSW, CIRT, SILC, is a certified Imago relationship therapist. She is\nthe vice president of Imago Michigan and a Robbins-Madanes strategic\nintervention life coach. She helps people get out of their own way to create\nthe life and relationships they desire. You can find her podcast Grow Your Guru\non iTunes and connect\nwith her on her website here<\/a>.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Have you ever had a conversation with your partner suddenly derail like an unexpected storm? You know that saying, \u201cIt\u2019s not what you say, it\u2019s how you say it?” That is only partly accurate. It matters greatly what you say as well. 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